The fair is in town and for my small town it means the social event of the year. Where you will see everyone from your middle School art teacher to the ex you never thought you would see again. For me I see my ex boyfriends all the time I go to church with one and his cousin is another ex. So I'm pretty use to seeing them and saying the casual "Hello",but it can still be odd to see someone you once had feelings for. Even though I am married and very much in love. I found my self feeling very uncomfortable around and ex last year at the fair. It could have been that he was following my group of friends like a lost puppy trying to get my attention. (people always want what they can't have,cuz I'm not that cool lol) But I did end up having a quick conversation with the lost puppy ex and it was nice to have him ask about my husband and my life with him. And he now has a girlfriend a year later and I hope to meet her at the fair this year. So any people have hate or distaste for people from the past,but if we learn to forgive and see them the way Christ sees them then we learn to respect the good times we had with them and simply learn from the negative times. I know personally I am the person my husband needs me to be because of the past relationships I had. They had many lessons. And some if even carry with me on a day to day basis. "lost puppy" ex thought me so much about respect for my self. It came through many hard times with him,but I have that today and enjoy having a powerful love and respect for myself. But I say all of this with a warning, nostalgia isn't what it once was. Learn from the past don't live in it. I have too many people in my life that live in the past where it keeps them from the blessed life God has in mind for them. Ex relationships are exs for a reason. And 99.99% they need to stay that way. If you were unhappy with them in the past ,but think only about the good and dream of a day when you two will be one again most of the time you are missing the lesson God wants for you and are replacing it with day dreams of lust. Learn and move on but you don't have to hate. Thank God for the good and bad and take the lessons with you in your next season in life. I thank God for my past,because I see now that only God can give me a future!
Be Blessed
